I am taking
off my pastor hat for just a moment and putting on my training and consulting
hat. Yes, I know they overlap sometimes.
Why am I
doing this?
I want to
talk about this not standing for the flag business. Peaceful protest in a free society is the hallmark
of many of our advances. Many I know
well have fought to preserve that freedom.
Many gave the full measure of devotion.
Freedom is
fantastic. Enjoying freedom in our
nation even more so!
I want to
share something that the Apostle Paul said about freedom. OK, I never really take my pastor’s hat all
the way off…
Paul said
that he may do anything, but not everything is profitable.
I am free to
do all things, but not everything is beneficial.
Which brings
us to one of my favorite words:
Efficacy.
Efficacy is
the power to effect desired change. Self-efficacy
is about making change in ourselves.
Efficacy is
what enables you to lose weight, stop smoking, study more, correct performance
errors. Efficacy is what is required to
raise your batting average from .225 to .275.
Efficacy is
why some companies succeed and others fade away. Efficacy is why some sports teams adapt and
overcome and others wish they made the play-offs.
Efficacy is
why some national and international issues get resolved and others linger.
Efficacy was
a word that I used over and over again with inmate clients. What is your goal. To never come back to this place again.
I agreed
that one belonged at or near the top of every list.
Then,
something would happen. A piece of
property was confiscated. Someone cut in
the chow line (yes, I’m still talking prison not 1st grade), or some
other thing that in the context of getting and staying out of prison made
little difference.
But inmates
went to extremes to call attention to the injustice of having an unauthorized
item of electronics confiscated often at the extent of internal sanctions. When the inmate came back for counseling, I
asked, “Did that outburst get you any closer to your goal?”
Words were
not necessary.
So let’s
jump to the NFL and players taking a knee.
Does it get them any closer to their goal?
Unless their
goal is to alienate about 95% of the people in this country—most of whom love
the peaceful protest as a right few around the world enjoy like we do, the
answer is no. I am not really sure what
the goal was, if there was one when all of this knee-taking started. I’ve heard race relations, police relations,
and even cop hating.
If all you
do is upset most of the people who love America, how can you get anything
accomplished other than making whatever problem you think you are bringing to
light move farther and farther into the background while the focus narrows to
the act of protest itself.
Prostests
and protestors seldom are logical when they get going, but this one has been
going on for a while and none of the protestors are doing the wise thing.
What’s that?
Clarifying
their message. What is their message.
Here’s
something they might want to try. It is
within the domain of efficacy—the power to effect desire change.
Take
something that most of us don’t have—a lot of money, and put some of it towards
a coherent message. Take some of it to
start programs to help fix the problems.
I know some
of the knee takers have made token investments.
If these causes were important enough to tick off most of the nation,
support them with real investment.
While you
are at it, stand for the National Anthem.
You are going to need those people that you anger every week if you
really want something fixed in this country.
So you are
angry that President Trump called you out on this. Here’s the deal: When you step onto the playing field of
politics—and that’s what you did when you took a knee during the National
Anthem—there are no refs to protect you.
You think
that you hit hard in the NFL. You guys
are wimps compared to playing on the field of politics. That stuff is for real.
You can’t
run with the ball and then call for a fair catch in politics.
You wouldn’t
let junior high kids play against an NFL team.
The kids would get hurt. So why
think that you can play politics with the big boys and not get laid out on
occasion. There is no targeting foul in
politics.
You played
with the big boys. It hurt. Stop crying foul where there is none.
Do I think
that many of these players taking a knee have something to say about real
problems in our nation? Yes, I think
that they do.
I also think
that practicing efficacy will get them closer to what they want to accomplish,
much more so than seeking to draw attention to themselves.
Which is
more important: Calling attention to me
or garnering support for solutions to things that need fixed. Is it all about me or is it really about
those things that matter to me?
Many of
these players went to college. Some
graduated. By academic standards they
should be considered well educated, but they choose to practice ignorance. They chose to evoke negative emotions where
unity is needed.
They thrive
on being divisive, when divisiveness will not bring about solutions.
I want to
know what has these players think we need to fix. I won’t find that out by watching them take a
knee. I am not going to try to figure it
out by searching news clips and web posts.
Come out and
tell me in a public service announcement but don’t ask me to choose between
loving my country and the flag which so proudly most of us hail and your
antics. The best that you can hope for
there is that I just ignore you.
My freedom
permits me to do all things, but not all things are profitable.
Hey! Players!
You guys who for years most people thought were pretty good guys. This take a knee play that you are running
isn’t working. You are losing yardage.
You make the
sports reel every week but it’s in the bloopers section.
Try
something else. Try something that gets
people on your side. Believe or not,
most of us want a better America for everyone.
We are the
people that you want on your team. Stop
alienating us.
Here is the
thing that I hope these college educated football player can grasp. This is the country where we the people have
the best chance of fixing things.
We have the
best chance—of all the nations in the world—of making things better, but a
house divided cannot stand.
If you want
division, then you are succeeding.
If you want
to work together on real problems and issues and explore new opportunities for
all Americans, It’s time to run a different play.
Run a
different play.
God bless
America.